
Getting over someone is not always an easy task. I tried to get over Mike since the beginning of this year. Since we both were in open relationships we started seeing each other on the summer of 2007, then I broke up with my BF on December 2008 and he broke up with his BF on January 2009, then he started dating someone else while I was living in Toronto, it sounds like a mess, and I guess it was.
On April 2009 I started dating Simon for 7 months, and hope to get over Mike, but the relationship with Simon wasn't what I was looking for, we were more like fuck buddies.
During that time Mike came up to my mind a few times, and sometimes we wrote e-mails to each other, because we wanted to stay in contact, even if each other had someone in our lives. Then in October 12 I decided to delete him from my FB friends, because seeing his posts didn't help me to get over him, specially when I saw any pic where the other guy was in. I let him know and decided to cut any communication with him, to help me face reality.
He send me a note acknowledging his mistake and hoping the best for me. That was it! I was going to be happy and free! or at least that is what I tought. It was hard to cut contact because what we had was very strong.
I broke up with Simon on Nov 17, and we stayed as friends (I always prefer a smooth break-up) Last Wednesday I got an e-mail from Michael, he told me that he misses me, then one minute after he sends another message telling me how sorry he felt about it and that he doesn't want to play with fire, and to dismiss the note and don't answer back. Of course I answered back, telling him staight the way I felt, that I don't want to play with fire either, but that we should communicate and try to sort this out and move on, togheter or not.
It is obvious that we had very strong feelings for each other (and maybe still have them) and that we need to stay in contact with each other. I believe that we can be good friends and need each other (maybe we both want more than that, but need time to work this this out)
One thing I am sure of is that we have a really strong bond.